The Social Selling Sisterhood Podcast Episode 95- The power of Yes and No

direct sales podcasts Aug 05, 2021

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Yeah. Hi friend. Welcome to the social selling sisterhood podcast. I am Lindsay Dellinger and I have many titles. High school spanish teacher, dog mom, world traveler and direct seller. I empower women to run your direct sales business is the right way. So you can earn the money, you deserve to live the life of your dreams and travel the world. Now we got that out of the way, let's get started. Hi social selling sisterhood, it's Lindsay Dollinger, I'm back for a car talk business tip thursday and today I just want to talk to you super quickly about the power of the word. No. And then on the flip side, also the power of the word yes, which I know sounds super basic and we're like okay, yeah, obviously if I'm saying yes and I'm agreeing to do something, if I'm saying no I'm not, but there is a lot of weight. I feel like that goes into both of those words. And I was just listening to a podcast and she was actually recapping I think someone else's podcast or a book, I don't, I don't remember. But she was basically pointing out that when we're saying noticed something, we're essentially saying yes to something else in like vice versa. So what I mean by that is as you're working your business, if you're saying yes to doing all of the things, you know, not delegating, answering every message that comes in immediately, you know, whatever it is, you're essentially saying no to something else that could you could be doing at that time, right? And then, you know, the same thing goes, if you're saying no and you're putting up your strict boundaries, you're saying yes to having more time, freedom, you know, time to be doing X, y, z and as we are, as we are, especially now that we're starting a new month, we are into the month of august if you're listening to this live as it's dropping, I want you to really think about and be intentional when you are saying yes and no to things. So next time you catch yourself micro quitting as our last podcast episode talked about or you know, saying some sort of excuse why you're not where you're at in your business or why you don't have time to do things. I want you to think about all the things that you said yes to you know, today in the previous day. Did you say yes to getting up at the time that you set your alarm for or did you snooze? I am a really bad snoozer, but I'm owning it. So I know that by saying yes to snoozing, I'm saying no to getting my workout in before school or you know my gratitude practice that. I really enjoy doing just basically saying that yes, just news yes to laying in bed is more important to me. So as you're thinking about your business growth, you know, did you say yes possibly to watching netflix or reading your trashy romance novel, which is totally cool. I definitely think there is a time and place where all of those types of things because you have to do something that helps you decompress, you can't be saying yes yes yes to all the business things all the time and essentially saying no to yourself and what you need to do to recoup and recharge. I'm not saying that at all, but I do definitely think there are seasons and times and even days in your week where you know I don't turn the Tv on or I try not to turn the Tv on unless it's the bachelor. That's like my one guilty, my one guilty pleasure during the year that I do watch Tv or I try to on monday nights but otherwise my tv doesn't go on until possibly the weekends and I've definitely had seasons of growth in my business where that Tv didn't come on for literally months until like it was christmas time and the hallmark movies were on. Right? So because I was saying yes to growing my business because I knew what could happen if I really doubled down and I made it a priority more of a priority than binging some show that I've already watched or something that I'm not actually getting any value of it's not actually making my life better, you know, for just a few months. So I want you to think about that, think about your choices and you know maybe it's your season to say yes to your kids, but instead of saying yes to your kids and spending more time with your kids and absolutely no to your business. In what ways can we free up some of that time? So maybe your kiddos are, you know, learning how to, I don't know, tie their shoes. For example, this is one of the things that I heard of the podcast and I don't have kids, so I'm really glad she pointed out this, but instead of tying your kids shoes every day, I think of how much time in a year. So I would say it takes you two minutes to put their shoes on and tie them every day. If you teach your kids to do that two minutes times 365 days in a year, that's like Over 700, that's almost 800 minutes that you're going to get back in a year. So putting something like that into perspective, like, I know most people want, their kids are old enough to do things, they do teach them to do things, so this is kind of an extreme example but it's just one where just some super small intentional tweaks and how you're using your time and what you're saying yes to and what you're saying no to can really add up over the course of the year. So, you know, next time that you get asked to do something I want you to really think, is this going to enrich my life? Does this align with my values? Is this align with what I'm working towards right now, and if it's not a heck yes, then maybe it gets to be a heck no, you know, so think about that. Um, I know I definitely have and I'm assuming you do as well Seasons in your business seasons in your life where certain things are ahead. Yes, and certain things are a heck no, I get asked a lot for example, um to donate to so and so's raffle so and so's charity things so well at some point I get to say no, because I have reached and this is more into kind of accounting and financial things, but I've, you know, I've kind of reached my max for what I'm donating for the year versus you know what I'm not. And so I want you to do that as well with your time, with your priorities, with your commitments, you don't have to be involved in all the things. And I think once you are able to accept that, I think that's a whole another like deeper level to why we are saying yes and why we are saying notice sings, are you afraid of being a bad mom? Does this come up from past trauma? From you know, you feeling like your parents didn't spend enough time with you. Is that why you are afraid to work your business while your kids watch a tv show for a half an hour every morning? You know, there's something a little bit deeper to why we say yes and why we say no. Like I used to have a huge foam, Oh, like my friends, I would get so and I still do sometimes get a little bit hurt when I'm not invited to do something. And that comes from some childhood trauma of you know, I was overweight when I was younger and not that I wasn't always I've always been more on the confidence side than the less confident side, but that feeling of acceptance, I mean that's just normal human, you know, a feeling that we want to feel so that can come a lot with me saying yes yes yes to all the things, but at some point I realized if I'm not going to want to burn out, if I'm going to want to enjoy doing all the things that I do all the time. At some point I get to say no and I get to say no firmly and respectfully and pick and choose the things that are building the puzzle pieces of the life that I want to build. Not a life that someone else thinks I should be living. So I hope this was helpful. Let me know what you were saying yes to what you were saying no to I hope this triggered something for you and you're able to really start making some small adjustments so that you can be more efficient and just really love your business and this awesome, awesome life that you are creating. Please screenshot this, share this in your stories. Tag me on instagram and facebook. I will definitely give you a share right back and so my audience can can see you just as much as your audience can see me. I love the Love. Please leave a five star rating and review and I will talk to you all soon. Bye bye.

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