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Yeah. Hi friend, Welcome to the social selling sisterhood podcast. I am Lindsay Dellinger and I have many titles, high school spanish teacher, dog mom, world traveler and direct seller. I empower women to run your direct sales business is the right way. So you can earn the money, you deserve to live the life of your dreams and travel the world Now we got that out of the way. Let's get started. Hello social selling sister, Welcome back to the social selling sisterhood podcast. This is Lindsay Dollinger, your hostess of the show and I am coming to you today with a Pamela Pamela alert. Um so this is just gonna be a super quick episode but I'm going to share what um happened to I guess I didn't really happen to me, but something that went down in my inbox and I think it's a good thing to share because I think it is something that we can all learn from and make sure that we aren't doing things, whether it is exactly like this or just how it makes a person feel. So let me start from the beginning, um I get lots of friend requests from social sellers, just like, I'm sure you do pretty much every day. Um And so I was going through last week and I got a friend request from someone and and they had their company all over there about works at this independent rep with this, this is this um which don't forget guys, if it just works at and you have the actual company that you are partnered with, that makes it seem like you're an employee and you're not an employee. So um if you have like works at your name, comma independent stylist consultant, whatever, that would be one thing. But um when you're setting up your profile, I would not put works at and then your company name uh that you partner with because again it makes it look like you're an employee and we are not we are independent contractors. So anyway I was a little confused and like does she work for the headquarters? Is she a consultant? Whatever we'll find out. So I accept this woman's friend requests within a minute, literally within a minute. Um This is like first thing in the morning, so home girl was on her on her facebook like waiting within a minute, I get a message and it says um and I've never gotten one quite like this, but this woman wanted me to buy this product from her daughter. Um And it was not the company that this woman had in her profile, so completely different company wanted me to support her daughter as she was starting her business. I'm like okay um This is interesting But also it is a product that I would never use, and if this person had gotten to know me, they would no, I would not ever use that product. Second of all, it's a really expensive product. 3rd of all, I don't know this woman and her daughter from Adam, like I know nothing about them, they know nothing about me. Um and it was a day I also wasn't feeling very well, so I was like, you know, I'm just not even responding to this, she'll go away. So this morning I get a follow up message which kudos to her for following up. And however, the message just said, hey, are you going to support my daughter and buy some X, Y. Z. I'm like, no. And I I responded and I just said, no, I'm not what I just explained to you. I don't know you if you had taken the time to get to know me, you would know I don't even need this product. However, you know, I'm a direct sales coach, I have a free podcast, a free group, you're welcome to join. I'm all about building relationships, you know, how do you send this message to me after we had gotten to know each other a little bit? Um I might have been more inclined to do that, but I'm a really big proponent of doing direct sales the right way and the right way is not cold messaging. And I gotta kind of snarky message back that was along the effects of wow, you know, um I forget how she worded it, but basically was just like, wow way to not help my daughter who has social anxiety start her business, which I'm thinking it's not my responsibility. It's like that could be a whole another podcast, but it just remember friends your it's not your responsibility to do anything for other people, right? Like that's a whole another thing. Um so I blocked this lady and I'm just like thinking and first of all, there's no way this woman is successful in her own direct sales business if this is how she is going about quote unquote, supporting her daughter. And it just makes me really sad that one these messages are still happening, but to like they're being learned from somewhere and I don't know if it is from companies, I don't know if it's from up lines, I don't know if it's just lack of knowledge, so kind of like the ignorance with the field, but I do really feel very called um you know to keep doing one what I'm doing with this podcast, but also you know, call to keep trying to get our industry evolved because we are never going to be treated like legitimate business owners when there are still people out there doing the messages like I just shared. So you know, relationships, giving value, getting to know people before you ever send a message and then never guilting someone for not wanting to support your business. Heck, I have family members who don't want to support my business, which is totally fine, but I'm not about to send them a message and be like, shame on you for not supporting my business. You just find the people that are your people. So go out there, friends, make relationships first, find your people and your business will grow. Um have a great day. Get out there, send some non spammy messages, send some love bombs, get to know some people um and making a good one. Bye bye.