The Social Selling Sisterhood Podcast Episode 107- Surround Yourself With People Who Push You

direct sales podcasts Sep 16, 2021

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Hi, friend. Welcome to the social selling sisterhood podcast. I am Lindsay Dellinger and I have many titles High school, Spanish teacher, dog Mom, world traveller and direct seller. I empower women to run your direct sales businesses the right way so you can earn the money. You deserve to live the life of your dreams and travel the world. Now we got that out of the way. Let's get started. Hello, Social selling. Sister. What is up? My name is Lindsay Dellinger. I'm the host of this show, and I am so grateful to be back in your ear buds to day for this biz tip Thursday. I don't even know if it's really a biz tip ish episode. Um, but I just wanted to give a quick recap of my weekend down in Florida for my team retreat for the new company that I have partnered with. I literally just got home. I Well, I'm not even home yet. I am, um, in the car just left the airport, and I was like, Well, this would be a perfect time to, like, decompress about, you know, kind of and just figure out like what we did in case you were planning on doing a retreat yourself or you've never been on one. Um, obviously, yours could look a little bit different than this, but here's what we did. So, um, I am a teacher, so I couldn't attend on Friday. So, Truthfully, I don't really know what went down on Friday. Um, I think it was just more of, like, welcome chatting, talking all those sorts of things. But I was there for Saturday. So saturday morning we did. It was supposed to be an hour and a half session in the morning, an hour, hour and a half session in the afternoon. Um, but we stayed at Club Med Sandpiper Bay. It is an all inclusive, which I didn't even know there was all inclusives in Florida. Um, or really, even in the United States, I knew there was one down in Key West that was so pricey. Um, but anyway, my up line Blair Christchurch planned all of this through the sandpiper, which was actually super smart. And I made a mental note of that for next time. I do any sort of retreat because, you know, there was just links and everyone could book their own room, kind of figure out like she helped facilitate roommate situations and all those sorts of things, Um, if needed, if people didn't know who the room with, didn't know people, all of that. But so we just have, like, a link to get a room. And then, like, every you know, food and all the all the things and free time, you could go to the pool, you could eat and drink anything that you wanted. Um, And then there were, like, obviously some some planned things that we did. So anyway, it was supposed to be too split sessions and with the entire group unanimously decided to do a session for three hours in the morning and into the early afternoon. Knock it out of the way. And then, you know, we just had, like, our team reception later in the day. Uh, in the evening, Rather and we were together for the majority of the time anyway. But, like, technical business stuff, get it out of the way. So, anyway, we did our session. We started off with gratitude. Um, and she had us write down 50 things we were grateful for, and it was really interesting to watch because this is a really hard exercise if you haven't worked up to it. So for me, it was kind of easy. It was a page in this notebook because she put together a little notebooks and workbooks. She's freaking awesome. Very teacher. If she was a teacher before she got into network marketing and building her awesome team and all the things. So, um, anyway, we wrote down 50 things we were grateful for, and she shared that. This is one of the things that she did on a mastermind that she had been on, and the first thing they had to do was actually write down 100 things that they were grateful for. Um, so this is really and we've talked about a gratitude a lot, but this is one thing I really think can help your mindset and really just make a little tweak and just how you live your life to be completely honest. So it was really interesting to see how people struggled with this activity. Um, and, you know, kind of thinking about what does that mean for us? What kind of blocks do we have up that are preventing us from listing off 50 things we're grateful for. So this one was kind of easy for me because I have used gratitude not only as a way to make myself a more positive and strong person, but I also use it as a coping mechanism. I think I've shared this before, but a coping mechanism when I'm flying and there's turbulence on the aeroplane. So since I literally just flown and met everyone down in Florida, there was a little bit of turbulence. It was not bad at all. And actually, my flight just now was one of the smoothest ones I've ever been on. So I'm so grateful for that. Um, but anyway, I I list things I'm grateful for. Um and I read that, Actually, I don't even remember now at this point. But I read it somewhere a few years ago, and it really stuck to me, especially in regards to turbulence and stress. And they were saying, If you start listing things that you are grateful for, it's really hard to be stressed. Worried, overwhelmed all the things. So just to kind of use that almost like a coping mechanism, like I said, so anyway, we listed 50 things we were grateful for. She had some top leaders in our on our team and even that in our team. She invited some people who are not on our team who were willing to come over Honestly. I didn't even know they weren't part of our team because they fit right in and share their stories. And that was one of the things that I'm taking away from. I want to say this weekend it was a weekend, but literally like it was a little bit over a 24 hour trip for me, but is to know people's stories, and this has been harder for me to do in some companies than others. Uh, it's a little bit easier for me to do in. I'm in a wellness company now, so obviously we have some really huge transformational stories, not just weight loss. Um, and I think the weight loss stories can get Not that they're not awesome. Don't get me wrong, but I don't even know what the right word is. But I think it's important to remember that not everyone's goal is weight loss, and it can be really difficult to approach people from these dance of I have a weight loss product and I think you like basically like I think you need to lose weight kind of deal, right? So when you're looking at your product and again, I'm giving this example in a health and wellness, uh, atmosphere. But if you're approaching it from, like a wholeness and a holistic point of view like like my product does, um, collecting those different stories is so important. And so I chose to be super present. I wasn't on social media a lot, and I do believe in peppering in and showing people about about what you're doing. Um, especially going on retreats because there's lots of people who don't do that. Who, like that is like a Hugh would be a huge thing for them to get on a plane by themselves and go meet people and learn for a weekend like that would be huge not only in terms of financially paying for it, but also just like comfort zone and just all the things there's so many people that would never say yes and do that. So I definitely think peppering and ensuring those things, but being really present for me and absorbing those stories. That feeling and just being there was an intention that I set for the weekend, and I'm I'm really proud that I filled that intention. Um, and I essentially filled my cup. I filled my couple of stories with motivation with, um, dedication with will power with all the things and I am fired up. So we have these stories, the stories were awesome. And then we had, you know, some systems and some tactics. And I love this. This is my jam because I'm like, OK, this is great. I see you guys all doing the thing. But how do I do that, right? How do I get there if my mindset is there, You know, when I have these stories down my pack backpack and what do I do? Like, what's the next steps? And so we did that. We started with some goal setting, and you guys know I love to break up goals. So we're looking at the fourth quarter. The fourth quarter is coming up, and I have a really awesome This is totally unrelated. But I'm going to put a plug in here because this is my podcast. and I do what I want. But I have a really awesome fourth quarter group coaching programme that I'm going to be launching. The waitlist is coming. Um, so hopefully, if I get my act together, the waitlist link will be in the show notes. But you can find it on my socials. You can find in the social selling sisterhood Squad group Get on that wait list just to get the details to see what it's all about, because that's gonna be happening because fourth quarter is going to be lit. So anyway, um, So we talked about fourth quarter. We set to work two business goals, one personal goal. Broke it down like we know that we should do. Uh and then we kind of talked about the how we talked about what that customer experience, what that customer funnel can look like. And if you haven't sat down to do this, this is a really cool way to, you know, kind of start analysing not only analysing your business but making a blue print for your business because we all know if our businesses aren't duplicate able, then it's going to be really hard for us to grow a team and growing a team and network marketing is what is going to make you, um, you know, you able to make even more residual income. Um, And if you're not a network marketing, creating these systems and these, you know, where do my customers come from is really important for your courses, for your programme, for whatever you are creating that is your own, um, so, you know, go back. Look, where did your last five customers come from? What were some questions that they asked you and kind of start setting up these systems in these workflows? So we talked about that for a little bit of a little bit of time, and honestly, I think that was about it that took up pretty much are three hours. Um, but it was really good at keeping us on task. Then we ate lunch, we headed to the infinity pool, and again, I just kept talking to more people on my team, more people who were there from our company that were on my team and hearing their stories and what works for them and what doesn't. And then we shared some of our own personal stories completely unrelated. We talked about travel. I talked about, you know, places. I've been my student trips that I've taken kids on. It's so funny. That's such a good conversation starter. Because people are people love my stories about me taking students abroad there like I could never do that. Um, so we just had a really good time. That was a lot of fun. It was relaxing. Super little pressure. Um, which is funny because a lot of people to heading into a pool where you're in a pool. Um and I'm not in. I'm not the I won't say around the best shape. I am not the skinniest I've ever been. I'm not the smallest I've ever been. And I didn't think twice about putting on my swimsuit and jumping in that pool. I even noticed my swimsuit. Um, it was so funny because a memory had popped up. I think I've had my swimsuit for like, nine years. I noticed little holes in it. So it's about time that gets to be my swimsuit. I lay out into my house and not bringing public, but whatever. So I don't even think twice. And I think that speaks volume. You know, for the comfort level, I have not only for my awesome team that I was surrounded by, but also with myself. And that is something that I wish for all of you, that level of comfort that level of like, i d g a f. I don't give a f you know, um, what people think of me. I am me. This is my authentic me. And you can take me or you can leave me. And I love being in that place. And I really I really wish that for you if you're not quite there yet. And if you are a high five sister, Um So we did that and let's see. Oh, Then we went back, showered super quickly came back to the infinity pool. She had it reserved for us. We had, like, a private reception and pictures. Everyone went around then and shared something they were grateful for from the weekend. Or that came up from the weekend, which was really awesome. And I I just didn't realise how many people were there until we were out there doing it. And it was like 90 degrees and I had, like, sweat rolling down my But you know what? The pool I'm like, OK, people. I know we're grateful. Let's go, Let's go. Um, no, but it was really good. So we did that and then we ate dinner and then we just have, like, fun. You know, we were playing like never Have I ever a band came out. We listened to them for a while and then we headed back My roommate and I, who I just met for the first time literally that weekend. Freaking love her Erica Shoutout to Erica not only, um, is Erica A. I think it's peace. Peace E n A I want to say is the term, um but she also just opened her own meds spot and she's been with our company for, I think, three ish years. Her story is incredible. So it's like things like that. And I'm like, Wow, like you're freaking badass woman and I, like this company has brought us together. This experience has brought us together, and I love surrounding myself with people who are levelling me up. So, like, that's another takeaway. Friends, like, do the thing If you get invited to a retreat. Heck, even if you don't get invited. You see? You see something about a retreat, getaway, something in person. I know there are different levels of comfort with what is going on in the world right now, but if you can, um, do something in person, do something that scares you, level up, enrol in, you know, some sort of group coaching, individual coaching, whatever you you think that you like, is calling you, it's calling you to to step into your next level self your highest level of self. Do it. I promise you won't regret it. You might be scared. You might be nervous. You might be a little anxious. You might have to figure out. Okay, what do I need to to sell this month to make the profit? To be able to pay for that and justify that? That's fine. But I have never, ever, ever gone to something like this or enrolled in something that scared me a little bit and not walked away a better version of myself, and I think that is the biggest thing that, you know, I would just pass along to you is, you know, just do the thing. Um and I really loved how the weekend was structured, that it was a really nice mixture of business and pleasure because, you know, especially some a lot of people that I knew each other, some of us didn't. But it was just so nice getting to know all of the people and creating those bonds and that that family like feeling and again being with people who are higher level than you are. And I made this post in the social selling sisterhood squad on Facebook. If you were in that group and and mentioned that, you know, they say, if you are the smartest person in your friend circle, for example, I'm just saying Friend circle, but your business circle your biz bestie circle if you're the one who's always the one showing up, if you're the one who has the big goals and big dreams and knows the most about social media and knows the most about all the things you need to surround yourself with, people that know a little bit more than you, not all the time. I mean, you know you don't want to be the person in the room that's like the lowest at skill level or whatever, but some people argue that you should. But anyway, like seen, I hope this is coming off right. But surround yourself with the people who are just a little bit further in their journey than you are like. That is what is going to push you and motivate you. But if you are the one leading the pack and that's okay, like if you're obviously if you're building a team and you're teaching your team all these things, that's a different story. But I'm talking about, like in a mastermind and a leaders group and and even the people on your team are not on your team. You're sidelines, you're up lines, whatever. And that's one of the things that has really burnt me out in my business before is I wasn't surrounding myself with people that were pushing me to go even further. If that makes sense, like I wasn't like, Oh wow, they know more about Instagram than I should like I do. I should listen to what they're saying. It wasn't it just it just wasn't driving me forward, motivating me forward, and I think that's also another huge lesson is surround yourself by those people to push yourself continuously, um, and in a good way in a healthy way, and watch and see what will happen with your business. So I hope this was helpful. I hope you enjoyed hearing about my trip. Like I said, it was really fun Trip. I didn't take very many pictures at all. I it's been like that my past few trips. I just have Really, um, you know, like I said, really been intentional about being in the moment, which is so funny because everyone's always like you put everything on social media and I'm like, No, but I really I actually really don't. Um So anyway, I hope you enjoy this. I hope you get to do something like this. Put it on your calendar planet. Reach out to your up lines up, lines up lines, whoever and I ask, Are you doing something like this for our team? This is the sort of thing that will move your business forward. And if you are in the non network marketing space, you know, if you're a coach and your creator, whatever your businesses, seek out those opportunities where you can be around some like minded women find it in a networking group. Find it in other people's podcasts or whatever. I don't currently have an offering like that, or I would give it to you. Um, but, you know, surround yourself with people who are going to up level you and watch and see the amazing, amazing things that are coming your way because I know they're there. Alright, friends, please. Screenshot this. Take. Um you just take a great job. Screenshot this. Share it in your stories all over your socials. Please tag me. I will give you a re share. I love seeing them. I love you all. Leave me a five star rating and review. If you have a second, just scroll down. It literally takes a second. And it means the world to me. And kisses, kisses, kisses, hugs, hugs, hugs. Thank you for being a part of my journey by guys

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